It’s no secret that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And anyone can come off as attractive, regardless of their physical attributes.
Surprised?
Think about ten or twenty people that you find beautiful. I’m sure you’ll find that in more cases than not most of their physical features are average at best.

But maybe you’re not feeling it yet.
Plus, you’ve probably noticed that attractive people have so many advantages…

I bet you’re wondering right now: How can I start honing in on this world, and also enjoy the pleasures bestowed upon beautiful people?

Here are some of the secrets to increasing your individual attractiveness:

1) Smile very often.
Beautiful people love life and enjoy every single day. Know that when you are beaming with happiness, others sense it and feel uplifted as well. A bonus is that everyone looks attractive when genuinely smiling.
2) Take care of yourself.
Beautiful people keep up with themselves and keep up with their hygiene. Neglecting yourself is a sign of low self-esteem. It’s usually not much extra effort, and when you get into a daily routine it only gets easier. Taking care of yourself shows the world (and you) that you’ll be around as long as possible, and you hold yourself in high regard. No one’s perfect, own your beauty (or handsomeness)!!!
3) Take care of others.
Often, the most attractive people are very kind and share their wealth (whatever form it might be in). It’s almost a catch-22, because generous people’s good nature shines through to make them attractive, and being attractive is often a mirror of the beauty inside.
4) Be careful about what you say.
Beautiful people are often intelligent, and realize that mystery and beauty go together. Listen to what other people say respectfully, and avoid speaking more than necessary. Attractiveness and ugliness can sometimes be defined by the way people act and with the things they say, more than anything else!

Know that you are the maker of your own brand of attractiveness. There’s no reason to strive to copy someone else’s brand – you were already gifted all the aspects you need!

Every morning when you wake up and first look in the mirror, thank yourself for being so attractive! Thank yourself for all the opportunities in life, and for the fact that we really can create our reality!

This post was presented to you by Reverend Michelle.
I asked her to take over this newsletter, as I am sure you will agree that she’s done a great job bringing you awesome material!
Stay tuned for more.

Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com

Some studies have linked certain book-reading genres to levels of empathy, but I think that exposing yourself to any sort of story (regardless of medium) is enough to develop it. Being empathic is the key to humanity getting along; it’s the secret behind why some people develop compassion more easily than others.

The word “empathy” means being able to understand someone else’s emotions and share them. Empathy is the name of the feeling if you’ve ever felt extreme emotions when seeing someone else happy or sad. Empathy also explains feeling inexplicably moved by a situation or by something you saw.

An empathic person looks at the world differently, seeing it from a more sensitive standpoint. Some might view this as a weakness, but in reality it’s quite the contrary! Ultimately, everyone’s reality (both the big picture and the small picture for each individual) works off fluctuations in energy. Using your intuition to intelligently gauge situations, and also expanding your general development of sensitivity can help improve all circumstances in daily life.

Remember, you can be an individual and still be an empath! There is a huge difference between trying to mimic the status quo (or someone in particular), and walking a little distance in others’ shoes to gain perspective.

Of course, there are a lot of consequences to having an innate sense of empathy, which exists in about 20% of the population according to some studies. Whether it’s innate or developed, feeling empathy may have made challenging situations more difficult in the past, or perhaps it’s caused you to become a vessel for others’ negativity.
Has it ever happened to you that after an in-person or phone conversation with someone, or even a walk in the mall, you felt a headache or maybe felt so drained that you just needed to sleep? You simply never knew how to protect yourself. The good news is that you are not alone – many people experience these situations.
It’s not your fault! You just never knew how to release the emotions that others dumped on you. Protect your energy to make sure that it will never happen again.

It’s important to acknowledge that this happens so that you can start cleaning up your life by cleaning up your energy levels. When you feel negativity, put up a positive energy shield around yourself and then proceed to just radiate this positivity to others. The beneficial sides to being empathic far outweigh the bad, once you start protecting yourself and using/developing your sensitivity for your own benefit! Everyone that works on tuning into their own inner empath is using their sensitivity for the benefit of themselves and others!

Today we live in a divisive world and having ways to remain calm and composed are important. We’re constantly in social situations, so you always have opportunities. Hone your empathy to make our world and your personal world better and better every day!

Book your personal appointment now and learn how to better protect yourself! Often one or two sessions can be enough. Schedule yours today and select a one hour slot: http://www.meetme.so/dr_inessa.

Happy last day of summer!!!

Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com

It’s so easy to get into a rut because your work is monotonous, or when you feel over-qualified for your duties. And sometimes getting into a rut means lounging around in your comfort zone, which can be more harmful than you realize!

The best solution is aspiring to move up!!

Here is a list of five things that cost nothing, and will help you achieve any promotion!

1) Now that you know how to learn, use it!
Never rely only on the things you learned before! Knowing how to learn is a great habit to have and skill to cultivate! Find any way you can to expose yourself to new information that will help you improve. Subscribe to different news sources and use free educational materials. You might not get official ‘credit’ for the classes you take, but the knowledge will get you much further than more certificates.

2) Bring diversity to your own portfolio!
Don’t wait for someone else to discover you. Instead, go outside and put yourself in situations where you might be discovered! Branch out and get creative, because life is always handing us golden opportunities.

3) When you take on a project, always follow through!
It’s important to build a reputation that you’re reliable. This means showing up and being on time. It also means finishing projects that you commit to, and completing them efficiently.

4) Be yourself more.
Don’t be average, in a sea of averages! Show that you go above and beyond, and that your solutions are well-thought-out. Become useful in more ways, and maybe even take on assignments that are better suited to your other talents.

5) Become more active about “doing”.
Instead of passively waiting for opportunities, seek them out! Expand your network to other areas where people are likely to align with what you’re going for. In addition to reading up on different things, go out and put them into practice! Take calculated chances and be confident in your impending success!

You’ll be moving on up in no time, and progressing way out of any rut that might’ve snagged you before.

Give yourself credit and know that you deserve this promotion!

Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com

Confidence is one of those things that people often think they grasp, but sometimes it’s just a façade. It all comes down to mindset, and the way you tackle your everyday situations.
One mark of true confidence is that it remains, regardless of whether someone else built it up or tore it down. When you’re a confident person, you make the world go ‘round by both inspiring others, and always contributing to your own growth.

Confidence comes in many shapes and types, but here are a few things that differentiate the real from the pretend.

1. Source of happiness.
As a confident person, you are your own source of happiness, and you get it from within. You recognize that by giving yourself the reigns, you can persevere even when the odds seem stacked against you. You’re not swayed by others’ opinions, because you’re motivated by the knowledge of your awesome (and ongoing) accomplishments!

2. Listening vs. speaking.
As a confident person you listen more than you speak, because you don’t feel you have to prove yourself to anyone. You care more about the interaction itself, and keep an open mind. You recognize that you stand to maybe learn something, or find new ways to appreciate the person speaking.

3. Judgment’s limitations.
As a confident person, you respect others and pay attention to them, and you also avoid passing judgment on them. You recognize that everyone’s path is different and we’re all striving to better ourselves. You’re not stuck within the limits of your judgments, and you enjoy celebrating others!

4. Tone of voice.
As a confident person, your assertive tone of voice gives you away. You find people listening to your ideas more, since you speak with certainty and what you say is well-thought-out.

5. On being wrong.
As a confident person, you know your worth. You also know that sometimes you’ll be wrong, and that’s more than OK. You recognize life is a learning process: sometimes you teach others, and sometimes others teach you. You’re graceful about it, and you know it’s not a personal slight.

6. Taking risks and winning.
As a confident person, you know that you need to give yourself built-in incentives to succeed. When opportunities present themselves, you jump in and trust yourself even when you don’t yet know it all. And most of the time, it works out excellently. Your small (and large) victories are scientifically proven to give fuel to your fire, as they develop the reward and motivation areas of the brain.

You confidently recognize that you’re doing so well on this journey, and only getting better everyday!

Group and one-on-one sessions to boost your confidence are available! Contact me to schedule yours online: Meetme.so/dr_inessa .

Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com