Confidence is one of those things that people often think they grasp, but sometimes it’s just a façade. It all comes down to mindset, and the way you tackle your everyday situations.
One mark of true confidence is that it remains, regardless of whether someone else built it up or tore it down. When you’re a confident person, you make the world go ‘round by both inspiring others, and always contributing to your own growth.
Confidence comes in many shapes and types, but here are a few things that differentiate the real from the pretend.
1. Source of happiness.
As a confident person, you are your own source of happiness, and you get it from within. You recognize that by giving yourself the reigns, you can persevere even when the odds seem stacked against you. You’re not swayed by others’ opinions, because you’re motivated by the knowledge of your awesome (and ongoing) accomplishments!
2. Listening vs. speaking.
As a confident person you listen more than you speak, because you don’t feel you have to prove yourself to anyone. You care more about the interaction itself, and keep an open mind. You recognize that you stand to maybe learn something, or find new ways to appreciate the person speaking.
3. Judgment’s limitations.
As a confident person, you respect others and pay attention to them, and you also avoid passing judgment on them. You recognize that everyone’s path is different and we’re all striving to better ourselves. You’re not stuck within the limits of your judgments, and you enjoy celebrating others!
4. Tone of voice.
As a confident person, your assertive tone of voice gives you away. You find people listening to your ideas more, since you speak with certainty and what you say is well-thought-out.
5. On being wrong.
As a confident person, you know your worth. You also know that sometimes you’ll be wrong, and that’s more than OK. You recognize life is a learning process: sometimes you teach others, and sometimes others teach you. You’re graceful about it, and you know it’s not a personal slight.
6. Taking risks and winning.
As a confident person, you know that you need to give yourself built-in incentives to succeed. When opportunities present themselves, you jump in and trust yourself even when you don’t yet know it all. And most of the time, it works out excellently. Your small (and large) victories are scientifically proven to give fuel to your fire, as they develop the reward and motivation areas of the brain.
You confidently recognize that you’re doing so well on this journey, and only getting better everyday!
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Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com