I’m sure you have found that there are many negative influences in life that try to get you down. And surely you’ve considered the great benefits of not letting them get to you…. But how??? How do you say “no” and only let positivity into your sphere?

Here are a few ways you can accomplish that and stay stress-free:

1) If you happen to know that you are going to come across negativity in your day ahead of time, the easiest thing is to create a shield. The way to do that is to close your eyes and imagine a wave of positive energy flow through you. Then, imagine that another wave is washing over you, but this time envision that it is in the shape of a shield. It washes over you and leaves the positive energy perfectly around you to where it will stay surrounding you no matter where you go. After that, envision that whenever negative energy or remarks come across your shield, they just slide off leaving you free of their weight.

2) If you don’t have a positive energy shield and find yourself in a situation where you need to stay positive, it helps to get in certain habits. Instead of letting whatever someone says or does get to you, take a deep breath and imagine a wave of positivity washing over you and filling you up completely. Sometimes it might be difficult but by taking a moment to relax instead of engaging the situation, you minimize the negativity you allow in.

3) Something you can do in the meantime, whenever you have a few moments, is work on yourself. Often we collect negative energy without realizing it and it determines how we react to situations. Spend some time relaxing yourself and releasing old junk that doesn’t serve you anymore. I’ve found that often negative energy collects in different body parts and it helps to imagine that parts of your body are imbued in positivity and allow all of the grey energy out. After that, imagine that body part is encased in beautiful quartz that is constantly clearing the energy around it, leaving it pristine in its positivity.

Remember to give yourself the respect that you deserve in every situation. Don’t allow someone else’s careless words to cause you to question your abilities, because they might not even mean to be as mean as they are. It helps to communicate with those around you and stop hurtful behavior that doesn’t serve a purpose. Remember also that if people have been hurt in the past, sometimes their defense mechanism is being mean to others so that they feel protected from similar hurt.

Life can be chaotic and unpredictable, but your positivity can be a constant. Strive to live your life with positivity surrounding you and everything you come in contact with. It’s worth it in more ways than you can imagine, because by staying positive you draw more wonderful things to your sphere.

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It’s truly incredible what one full day of unplugging can do for you. I recently went on a camping trip just on the edge of service-range, and it was only for two nights and 1.5 days. I turned my phone off, only looked at the time once or twice, and enjoyed my surroundings more than ever! Of course, longer would have been ideal but the most important aspect is squeezing this unplugging into your schedule without much shuffling around. I’m sure it happens once in a while naturally, that you have a day or two available in a row with not many responsibilities to attend to. Instead of just vegging out and doing the same past-times you’re used to, plan ahead just a few days and throw together an unplug session. It doesn’t even have to be out of service-range, and honestly it doesn’t have to be far away from home. The elements that matter are unplugging from all your electronics, distancing yourself from them, and enjoying even the slightest change in scenery (outside).

Nature is beautiful and the world is our oyster. Why not relax somewhere else — somewhere entertaining in its simplicity?

The benefits of a regular unplug are truly amazing. The day you return to your daily routine will be like seeing it with new eyes, and your life will be put into an even lovelier perspective. The hours of work you must complete will seem a lot shorter, and your interactions with others will be much smoother. You will find that you can better pick up on the small nuances in your surroundings and that you sort out difficulties with ease.

Do yourself a favor and plan an unplug right now! Start brainstorming where you could go, and how you can take care of looming deadlines in such a way that you can forget about them altogether for a day or two! Remember to abandon all electronics! That is truly the most important aspect, because unplugging means literally only being available face-to-face and in-person. So, only take people that you can relax with that will allow (and help) you to forget about the daily routines!!!
Ideally, you’d take enough food, water (and other necessities) to last you so that you are truly responsibility-free and chore-free!

Hopefully you’ll discover (as I do, every time I escape for even just a day) increased life-enjoyment with every day that passes, and more life-fulfillment with every moment you have available! Plus, sometimes all you really need to get a good solution for something is a tad of quiet time so maybe you’ll even solve a few big life riddles!

Thanks for reading.

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It happens frequently that people accidentally suffer from selective hearing. And, most often, the case is that these partially-heard people are close to the selective-hearer. This means that often times this is someone’s spouse/family member/significant other/long-term friend.
And over an extended period of time, the communication lines become garbled to the point where people are rarely actually listening to each other… They only hear fragments of what the other is communicating and they react to that. Then their reaction’s tone is way off from the tonality that the other person used to talk to them in the first place. And this causes a constant back-and-forth issue where there is discord and disconnect in many other areas of life.

Have you ever witnessed something like this in your life, or in the lives of those around you????
If someone were to ask me that question, the answer would be a resounding yes.

It seems that many succumb to the parital-listening method…. Sadly, usually they have the best of intentions and feel very strongly about the person to whom they’re doing a disservice. Some people might even lash out in various ways when they feel they’re being communicated with in a different tone than is appropriate. Of course, when you’re only partially listening you also only pick up part of the emotions attached, so often-times the tone that is communicated is, in fact, appropriate and the information is, in fact, spot-on.
Ok, so by now you realize this is pretty common nowadays. Maybe it’s due to technology, or maybe it’s due to a notion that the years have entertained an endless-loop of not-pleasant encounters.

So what do you do?
How do you get out of this negative loop and help others get out too???

FIRST, realize that men and women deal with negative emotions differently. Recent studies have shown that they react to other people’s negative emotions in a completely opposite manner. What research has shown is that when someone approaches a man with a negative message, the man will mirror what they perceive to be a bad mood. However, when someone approaches a woman in the same manner, the woman will try to counteract that message with something positive. These interesting finds might be the equivalent to a built-in communication deficiency for some…

SECOND, let go of previous battles. The best way to live in harmony with yourself (and those around you) is to not collect resentments and grudges. Allow those shackles to fall off, and break away. Strip down the emotional barriers you’ve built and bare your heart – even if just for fifteen minutes…
Sometimes we tune out more than just perceived negativity. Sometimes it helps to lower your voice, create a more pleasant tone to speak in, stop interrupting, and respond to the actual questions being asked. Also, when someone is trying to answer the questions about emotions, don’t call anything a ‘tangent’. Just because something and how it links up or connects aren’t making immediate sense to the logical mind, doesn’t mean they’re invalid.

THIRD, allow the other people to finish out their thoughts. It’s ok to ask someone to not repeat things, or keep their answers to a few paragraphs (at the most) in length. However, when someone gets respect, attention, and silence when they’re speaking it tends to keep them in an even-keel enough mood to remain friendly. A discussion can be so much quicker and much more productive if people just let the other person talk the first time around, hearing the summary of the situation and how someone perceived it, and then calmly responding with the same.

FOURTH, a discussion can usually be laughed off as soon as the ridiculousness of the original argument is discovered and acknowledged. Don’t get too serious and rigid… stay easily amused! Laugh at yourself, giggle with others, and develop your sense of humor. Smiling and laughing send endorphins to the brain and keep us young!

Take your time and take a deep breath. Close your eyes and slow your roll… allow calmness to envelop you. The timing that matters most is the here and now; the people and situations physically around us. A little respect for someone else’s time and attention goes a really long way!

Thanks for reading!

I’m a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience.
For over 6 years I’ve been experimenting and healing in a zone where science and metaphysics collide! The unique (and cutting-edge) healing solutions I’ve developed blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence.

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Some people are taught the consideration concept – raised from an early age to foresee what they can do to make people’s lives easier. Some people, on the other hand, are not taught this skill. There’s also a third group of people – the inherently caregiving people that have a similar talent, that of interpreting events and determining ways of quickly diffusing situations to where everyone is as happy as possible. When people of the first and third group (we’ll refer to them as The Considerates) come in contact with people of the second group (the ones that haven’t learned or incorporated this skill), sometimes there is frustration. The considerate people do certain things to help the not-so-considerate, and often the favor is not returned. The considerate and caregiver ones may feel that it’s unfair and maybe even rude, but the irony of the situation is that the not-so-considerate people haven’t even given it a second thought. Maybe they’ve grown accustomed to the consideration, or maybe they are clueless altogether.

So, what to do about this deeply-rooted difference of ideals?

First of all, if you are one of The Considerates, don’t get discouraged if people don’t acknowledge your consideration. This is definitely not a fault of your own, because you are going above and beyond in terms of being nice. It’s actually a lack of this characteristic in the other people. Give yourself the credit, if it’s not given by others. This talent that you have is incredibly valuable and don’t let others’ action (or inaction) sour your desire to flourish.

Second, if someone finds themselves in the position of being one of the not-so-considerate, perhaps it’s time to pay more attention to the nuances around. There are certain things that people do that aren’t really necessary; they’re extra favors that are gifted due to their anticipation that it would be helpful. Consideration is a skill that can definitely be learned, no matter how old someone is, nor the grade of previous life experiences. Sometimes nice people get not-so-nice treatment, but that doesn’t mean the niceness needs to be let go. On the contrary, sometimes the unpleasant situations in life and how one reacts to them are what shape a person’s character.

Third, no matter which group you fall under and regardless of why, the consideration skill is best developed by practicing on yourself. You will always be thankful for the nice and thoughtful favors you do for yourself, so why not ramp it up even more? It’s not selfishness, because it will help you open your eyes further to the sorts of things that make life easier for others. And if you’ve felt the gift of consideration then you’re more likely to give it to others with no expectations. I’ve found that the most fulfilling consideration is the one that’s given in and of itself, with no built-in desire to get something back.

Fourth, if you find yourself often thanklessly considerate, perhaps tone it down just a little bit. Sometimes people need to do things for themselves before they realize how amazing it was for you to do them. Another point is that maybe people are already doing certain things, but in their own way. Allow others to accomplish certain tasks in the manner they see fit, because often there isn’t just one way to do them.

I think we can all agree that the world and its interactions would be a much better place if more people were considerate. So keep it up! Be thankful often, and please continue being the wonderful person that you are. The positive energy that you generate with your great intentions will find its way back to you for sure, one way or another. You’ll know when it happens.

Thank you for reading. 🙂

I’m a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience.
For over 6 years I’ve been experimenting and healing in a zone where science and metaphysics collide! The unique (and cutting-edge) healing solutions I’ve developed blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence.

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We all have those people or situations in our daily lives that question our patience. If it’s people, we wonder why they don’t have the same common sense we do, or the same willingness to pick up what’s being put down. It can often be frustrating to have to deal with these people and still show them common courtesy when they seem to not be on the level. Same with situations (which really stem from similar people) and in these cases, we might find ourselves aggravated at the drop of a hat.

So what’s the deal? Why are some of these people occasionally intolerable, and some of these situations’ simplistic roots hard to wrap our heads around?
There’s really only one answer… these people are not as talented or smart, and perhaps they have incredibly low self-esteem. The latter, of course, can actually be debilitating in new situations, because when someone lacks self-confidence they don’t have the courage to delve into resolutions as easily.

Now, it is the mark of an intelligent and talented person to find surroundings annoying at times, simply because of irrational decisions made by others. So if you’ve ever experienced anything along these lines – and judging by the fact that you’re reading this right now, your intelligence is obvious and I gather you have — give yourself a pat on the back! Recognizing and acknowledging your own worth is a must!

So, why is it important to be nice to everyone, regardless of their seeming lack of common sense???
Well, the easy answer is that being nice helps things get done, and it’s the grease to efficiency in the workplace and even in home-life. The more complex answer is that when you realize the root of why people are that way it’s easier for you to communicate with them, and help them raise their self-esteem and common sense levels.
Instead of succumbing to aggravation and being perplexed by their silly ways of doing things, remember the probable reason why they are acting in that manner. Utilize the opportunity to uplift them, to give them confidence, and to teach them the tools of the common-sense trade.

I think you’ll find that these people and situations are more effortless to deal with if you use that tactic, and… who knows? The issues might just iron themselves out eventually to where better decisions are made and better mannerisms are exhibited.

Thanks for reading!

I’m a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience.
For over 6 years I’ve been experimenting and healing in a zone where science and metaphysics collide!
The unique (and cutting-edge) healing solutions I’ve developed blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence.

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Reverend Michelle

How will you ever have enough time to accomplish everything you strive for? Sometimes it seems that we are racing against the odds, trying to finish countless projects in a limited time. And often people in retirement years are amazed by how much they accomplished while working multiple jobs and holding down a family…

Most likely, you already know this is possible. It only seems overwhelming because you’re trying to hold everything in your conscious brain and expecting to perform wonderfully besides. This is when it’s helpful to utilize the implements of productivity that are all around.
Of course, lists are great but only if they are efficient and in a convenient spot that will help.

There are many people that profess that you can stretch extra hours into the day just by careful planning and by maximizing your most alert time periods. Everyone’s different in regards to when they feel the most productive, since it depends on the sleep schedule and physical disposition. Some are night owls, and some are early birds. But even if you’re a night owl (which I am), going to sleep earlier and then waking up earlier allows you to accomplish a lot more by the time of the day during which you might have previously just been getting up. It’s because staying awake much longer into the night does seem productive, but at the same time your mind and body are winding down in some ways, and you aren’t as able to function as right after waking.

So, how do you maximize your days and accomplish loads of your to-do projects?

1) Earlier to bed and earlier to rise, and allow yourself extra time for everything, so that you have ample opportunity to wake up gently and in a great mood. When you’re not rushed and you are in a happier mood from the start, you’re more likely to be productive.

2) Create a few lists in terms of your short-term and long-term projects. Don’t expect yourself to remember everything and surely don’t overdo it with post-its, because the goal is to shrink the list instead of making it seem bulkier than it is.

3) Give yourself rewards for accomplishing a lot and for crossing things off your list. Treat yourself to nice food, or get yourself a better version of something you use everyday. This can actually be a double-bonus, because it’s been shown that when you have better-made objects then you replace them less frequently, and are able to get more use out of them in the meantime.

4) Don’t sign up for too much all at once. Give yourself the opportunity to do things sooner than they’re due, but don’t allow your deadlines to all stack together. This one point alone will save you lots of overwhelming feelings.

5) Recognize that even though we’re used to having time as a linear thing that is static, it’s actually quite relative as well. Our perceptions of our experiences are always shaping how time flows at that given point.

Incorporate some of these ideas and you will notice your days are getting longer and your to-do lists are getting shorter. And always remember to stay confident in your amazing abilities… What fun would life be if it didn’t challenge us?

Thanks for reading!

I’m a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience.
For over 6 years I’ve been experimenting and healing in a zone where science and metaphysics collide!
The unique (and cutting-edge) healing solutions I’ve developed blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence.

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You’ve probably noticed that “if you don’t ask for what you want, you’ll never get it”. This is an important concept, because most people feel that the polite thing to do is to imply what they want, instead of saying it straight out. And, as much as it makes life and relationships better to be polite, it also helps life and relationships for you to be happy!

There are many aspects to feeling fulfilled but an important one is actually verbalizing desires. Most of us are out in the world trying to get through the day, and hoping to begin and end every one on a happy note. But that’s also the reason others are generally too absorbed in their individual thoughts to be extra considerate and borderline psychic for your benefit! It’s a true talent to remain considerate and still ask for what you want, and it’s a skill to frequently get the things you ask for!

So how do you go about asking politely for what you want???

+ Remain tactful, and fully think out what you’re going to say. Perhaps compose some reasons why they might want to oblige you.
+ Be extra considerate to the person you’re asking, and go out of your way to make their day easier somehow.
+ Make eye-contact and smile! The strength of a free smile is immense!
+ Practice the wording of what you’re going to say in your head and perfect it as best you can, for the situation. Then take a deep breath and go for it!
+ Make sure you pick an opportune time to ask the person, and don’t disrupt something important, because it might sway them to refuse on principle.

Now, the same concept works in terms of remaining steadfast when you don’t want something.
When would this apply?

+ If your life is in a different place than the other person’s.
+ If you prefer to wait a little longer before you even have to make a decision.
+ Perhaps there are circumstances that the other people don’t know about, or haven’t considered, that affect your potential decision.

It’s of the utmost importance to maintain your dignity and feelings of self-worth! So when it comes to your life, how about you dictate more of the decisions???

Remember, no one ever has all the answers before they start a large undertaking; they have most of the answers and figure out the rest on the spot! Never hesitate to take extra time for yourself to think over a life choice. It’s your life and only your place to decide the directions in which your paths curve.
Have the faith and courage in yourself to grab the reigns and steer!

Thanks for reading!

I’m a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience.
For over 6 years I’ve been experimenting and healing in a zone where science and metaphysics collide!
The unique (and cutting-edge) healing solutions I’ve developed blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence.

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“Acknowledging the complexity of life may be an especially fruitful path to psychological well-being,” says psychologist Jonathan M. Adler of the Franklin W. Olin College of Engineering. He continues: “Remember, one of the primary reasons we have emotions in the first place is to help us evaluate our experiences.”

Anger and upset are natural reactions to daily life, and although we feel the utopian solution is to be upbeat no matter what, it’s just not so. It’s healthy to feel negative emotions and often it’s necessary as well, since it takes the downs to recognize our ups. Our sense of contentment runs the risk of being cheapened if we feel we must always push the anger away! In addition, some are socialized to believe that certain negative emotions are okay to express (depression, anxiety, or sadness), but not anger.
Really, though, the key to feeling fulfilled is to acknowledge issues, and face problems head-on. In addition, recent scientific studies point to the fact that suppressing thoughts can be very harmful. People who suppress in the face of stressful situations are likely to feel more stressed than those who admit their emotions to themselves, and then react to these emotions’ existence.

Anger is defined as “an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage,” according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in anger studies. Like any other emotion, anger is more than just a feeling – it’s coupled with biological and physiological shifts. When you experience anger your blood pressure and heart rate escalate, and your levels of adrenaline, noradrenaline, and energy hormones go up.

Naturally, angry feelings can be caused by internal or external events, and sometimes they’re recurring when the individual is in similarly stressful situations often. For example, running a little late and having to deal with traffic or lousy drivers, or perhaps asking someone to do something and seeing evidence of it not being done for a few days in a row. They can also be triggered by memory fragments of deeply moving or traumatic experiences. And, it’s important to note that the existence of some anger is necessary to survival since in order to respond to threats we need a powerful adrenaline-causing emotion that drives us to fend off danger.

The most essential element, of course, is how life’s angering situations are dealt with. There are three main ways of approaching them: expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing must be in a non-aggressive but assertive way, in order to be the least harmful and humiliating to those around. This means maintaining respect for others, while still communicating clearly about what you need. Anger left unchecked turns irrational very fast, so extreme logic is helpful in keeping it humane while quantifying the best turn of events going forward.

Suppressing can only be helpful if done correctly, since the aim is to turn negative thoughts into positive ones, and transform the angry feelings into constructive ones. However, the problem arises when the feelings are bottled up for the moment and everything seems hunky-dory on the surface, while the negativity continues to pile up inside. The two worst case scenarios become anger turned inward at oneself, or lashing out at others in payback mode, without any real reason but in a passive-aggressive and hostile manner.

Now we’re left with the best approach — calming.
So here’s the how to getting over anger in a snap!

Some tips:
++ Deep breathing from your diaphragm, and counting slowly to yourself while allowing your emotions to ease before reacting.

++ Concentrating on a word (such as “calmly”) or phrase (such as “relaxing more and more”), or one of your own construct. Belaboring and repeating the word(s) to yourself as you momentarily exit the situation and allow the hotheadedness to ease.

++ Closing your eyes and taking yourself to a calm place from your memory or one you make up, such as floating in the clouds or lounging beach-side. Imagining all of the sounds (and sensations) that would be there (the whoosh of air currents, and complete silence of floating high above the ground; or the to-and-fro of ocean waves lapping against the shore at your feet). Become surrounded by this place and allow yourself to feel peace.

++ Restructuring the situation with humor. There are a few ways to do this, depending on how much it has escalated.
The first way: if you’ve already called someone or a situation a name, then imagine (or physically draw out) how this would actually look. For example, a dumbbell or single celled amoeba or silly-face sitting at the drivers’ wheel, or perhaps at one of the desks at work.
+ The second way: if you’re feeling very irrationally upset when things aren’t going your way sometimes you might imagine yourself as the emperor/empress or supreme ruler that’s striding through the day (your surroundings) demanding others do your bidding. Extreme imaginings are often helpful in infusing humor which helps to alleviate extreme feelings.
+ The final way you can use humor is by saying something completely ridiculous. Even if it doesn’t make others laugh, you’ve separated yourself from the anger and allowed your mind to overcome by being amused. Smiling and laughing will send endorphins to your brain and allow you to be more rational with your reactions.

Any of the above tips can be accomplished in the time it takes to snap your fingers. Try them sometime. Getting out of the habit of reacting angrily is in itself the formation of a new habit. The only way you’ll see lasting results is by not suppressing, by being upbeat, and by calming yourself before reacting. Your world will surely thank you.

Reverend Michelle is a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience. Her unique healing solutions blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence.
This is cutting edge, because for over 6 years Rev. Michelle has literally been fusing science with metaphysics!

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