Forgiveness + self-love = the combination of champions.

Perhaps you know that forgiveness is a strong healing agent for everyone involved, especially the person doing the forgiving?
Often, for many years people hold onto unhappiness that they have, grudges they’ve acquired, and resentments they’ve stored.
Sometimes people don’t realize they’ve held onto these negativities, and at other times maybe it gives them a sense of pride out of situations that are otherwise chalked up as defeats.

The truth is, even if these people don’t realize it at first, often these grudges are against themselves.
What does that mean?
Often, the forgiveness needs to be (or atleast start) with the self. It goes much further than the freedom that comes with releasing grudges against others. This goes deeper – to the secret disappointments in self from long ago. If a person forgives themselves the results can be truly profound.

The easiest way to begin self-forgiveness is to realize (and internalize) that you deserve it. It’s okay to have let the wrong people in, or to have managed a situation incorrectly. Everyone makes these errors at some point, and it always has something to do with important lessons. They might have taken a while to unfold, but now you’ve allowed them to and your life has changed…
The wrong people are out of your path, and situations have improved. You stuck it out and you’re here now — that in itself means you deserve to forgive.
The negative people and situations aren’t in your life anymore so allow their influences on your reality to wane as well!

Take a few quiet moments to reflect, and allow yourself to come to terms with things. After your self-forgiveness starts, you can also begin the process of further developing your self-love.
We are meant to be immersed in love, and sometimes the everyday world causes us to get bitter or forget. Come back to the divine a little more today, and practice self-forgiveness.

Thank you for reading!
Yours in Calmness,
Rev. Michelle
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Reverend Michelle is a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience.
Her unique healing solutions blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence. This is cutting edge, because for the last five years Rev. Michelle has literally been fusing science with metaphysics!

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Often people find it difficult to revert to positivity or train themselves to re-frame everything in that light. Perhaps they feel that it’s so much easier said than done, and is it helpful anyway?

But what if I told you that the heart (the ultimate source of positivity, purity, & love) actually emits electromagnetic frequencies that reach far out from the body?
This interesting tidbit was discovered after years of scientific research, and it’s only been reinforced with additional studies.

At some point, I’m guessing you’ve noticed those moments when it seems as though your heart is functioning independently. In other words, the heart is three-fold: basic biology & personal life-source, interconnected with that gut instinct that seeks to guide in every situation, and natural frequency transmitter. Often, it’s the perception of this independent functioning that causes people to shut off their receptors to the information highway emitted by the heart.
Ultimately, this causes a crisis down the road when those same people realize that they need that information highway to function, but it’s fraught with potholes and dangerous roadwork.

Once you recognize that your heart transmits a powerful frequency, and that it’s even stronger when it’s positive, you might find yourself drawn to get back in touch with it. Get back in touch with this frequency to use it to your own advantage, and help influence the world around you into more positivity.
The heart’s frequency is similar to a radio wave and it’s a station that the brain and body are always picking up. Why not consciously become more in-tune?

In a paper published 11 years ago in Clinical Applications of Bioelectromagnetic Medicine, Dr. Rollin McCraty penned the following:
“The heart generates the largest electromagnetic field in the body. The electrical field as measured in an electrocardiogram (ECG) is about 60 times greater in amplitude than the brain waves recorded in an electroencephalogram (EEG). The magnetic component of the heart’s field, which is around 100 times stronger than that produced by the brain, is not impeded by tissues and can be measured several feet away from the body with Superconducting Quantum Interference Device-based magnetometers. We have also found that the clear rhythmic patterns in beat-to-beat heart rate variability are distinctly altered when different emotions are experienced. These changes in electromagnetic, sound pressure, and blood pressure waves produced by cardiac rhythmic activity are ‘felt’ by every cell in the body, further supporting the heart’s role as a global internal synchronizing signal.”

So there you have it. It’s scientifically proven that the heart and its energy-fields affect internal and external realities. By more quickly letting go of the negativities that arise while making conscious efforts to be positive, actual biological changes occur.

Begin the process today of re-opening your heart’s lines of communication. The heart may be the size of a fist with an average weight of 10 ounces, but its intelligence is vast and it has many beautiful things to impart…

Get in touch today, for help with any aspect of getting re-acquainted with your heart and its often untapped power!!!

Reverend Michelle is a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience.
Her unique healing solutions blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence. This is cutting edge, because for the last five years Rev. Michelle has literally been fusing science with metaphysics!

As a reader of this blog, receive exclusive discounts on teleseminars and healing programs!!! Simply email revmichelle[AT]calmness.com with the subject-line “Heart Science”.
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Yours in Calmness,
Rev. Michelle
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Today I’d like to discuss an element that affects everyone’s life, regardless of religion or religious belief. Everyone at one point or another has surely noticed that prayer, in some form, works. Good thoughts, positive synced vibrations, and wishes for wellbeing generally win out.
But why?
Of course, there are a lot of right answers. Some might say that the divine is listening and grants wishes. Others might suggest that it’s internal and credit their higher self. In my experience, both are correct.

There are always trials and tribulations, but how these are handled is important. Taking all of the lessons in stride, and having compassion for yourself is the best avenue. In some ways this means giving up the need to control everything.
Instead of viewing yourself as physical seeking a spiritual experience, see yourself as a spiritual being having a physical experience! You are inherently connected with the divine! Look deep within and accept this fact, without perceiving it as an accident or matter of circumstance.

By aligning yourself with positivity as best you can, eliminating negative self-talk, and thanking yourself for being amazing, you open yourself up to the beauty in our world.
It’s easy to look back and be upset with the way you handled a situation… The challenge comes in accepting that there was a lesson to be learned! Obviously you made that choice to the best of your ability, even if it was faulty! We are free to choose our path, but not free from the consequences of our actions… As with everything, there are pluses and minuses to this facet of life.

Today, do yourself a favor and stop beating yourself up! Accept that these situations were in the past and open your mind to the lessons and gifts that chosen path brought you!
It takes some self-reflection and a lot of courage, but ultimately I think you’ll realize this is the most lucrative approach.

Without respecting the past AND the present, it’s impossible to progress towards developing your ideal future! In order for you to plan your ideal future, you must come to terms with the reasons why you’re at this juncture! It’s common knowledge that if you don’t stand for something you’ll fall for anything, and that’s why it’s important to stand for yourself. In the process of developing self-compassion, it becomes easier to have compassion for others. And when you exhibit compassion and gratitude in daily life, happy circumstances and answered prayers abound!

It truly is possible to paint the future to your specifications. Allocate yourself a few minutes daily for self-reflection and to better articulate what you seek. I think you’ll find that (slowly but surely) your loose ends will disappear and a wealth of opportunities will arise. Perhaps these opportunities already existed; you just needed to open your eyes and heart wide enough to see them clearly…

Reverend Michelle is a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience. Her unique healing solutions blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence. This is cutting edge, because for the last five years Rev. Michelle has literally been fusing science with metaphysics!
Her website is currently being updated to provide an even higher caliber of products and programs!

As a reader of this blog, receive exclusive discounts on teleseminars and healing programs!!! Simply email at revmichelle[ ]calmness.com with the subject-line “Fusionlightenment”.
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Reverend Michelle
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Have you noticed an abundance (or a lack) of “coincidences” in your life? Surely, at one point or another, you’ve wondered if there’s some other purpose or some extra meaning behind it all.

How do you feel about your willpower abilities?
Challenging yourself often is a helpful way of keeping both your faculties and your quality of life strong. This means to shake up that silly routine. It means to make some things more difficult on purpose. It means to edit your existence, piece by piece, until you’re satisfied in every part of your life!
Scientists and healers alike agree: we’re meant for more than just the monotonous daily grind.

How about your intent?
This is your built-in change-maker. Intent and its framing go much further than you might think! It’s important to keep all of your self-talk positive, and all of your intentions positively-slanted.
Manifesting your ultimate reality starts with the simple step of spelling out your goals! In order to have ‘intent’ and to see it sparkle, you must ponder every aspect of your life from an objective point of view. Only then will you realize what must change (regardless of ‘comfort’) and you’ll have the strength to slowly weave these changes into your daily life.

At this point, since you’re wishing the same wonderful goodness for everyone else, you’ll find yourself becoming kinder and more loving. You also strive to remain calmer, and enjoy brightening others’ day – even if it’s just a brief encounter. These are only a few of the natural side-effects of embracing more positivity!

In terms of the experience part, you already have a lot under your belt. There were lessons (and often coincidences) in every circumstance of your life thus far! You figure out everything else you need as you continue on the journey.
Understand that even the professionals you hold in the utmost regard sometimes feel inadequate for their duties! Everyone goes through bouts of doubt about whether they can step up to the plate and deliver properly.
The best solution…?
In these situations, hand yourself over to trust. Just let go of the reigns and let your intuition guide your actions. In terms of your inner gut feeling, that first voice is always right. The second and third voices are by-products of your conscious and logical mind.

Now perhaps you understand a little better how happy coincidences are actually the universe giving you a pat on the back! Recognize that it’s so, and remain thankful for all the gifts you wake up with each morning!!!!

Reverend Michelle is a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience. Her unique healing solutions blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence. This is cutting edge, because for the last five years Rev. Michelle has literally been fusing science with metaphysics!
Her website is currently being updated to provide an even higher caliber of products and programs!

As a reader of this blog, receive exclusive discounts on teleseminars and healing programs!!! Simply email at revmichelle[ ]calmness.com with the subject-line “Fusionlightenment”.
Stay In Touch via facebook for special deals, AND a biweekly dose of inspirational positivity ~ www.facebook.com/coastallilacs.

Please feel free to share similar confirmations or experiences with us, in the comments below.

Yours in Calmness,
Reverend Michelle
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This past weekend, three new Category 4 hurricanes (Kilo, Ignacio, and Jimena) appeared in the Pacific Ocean at the same time!
Scientists are thinking it’s due to a stronger than usual El Niño, and that it indicates the beginning of a trend.
News.com.au reported: “The Australian Bureau of Meteorology says the eastern half of the northern Pacific was now more than one degree warmer than the averages – with patches more than 2 degrees higher.”

Some are saying this is a record and the world hasn’t ever seen so many hurricanes form at once. Of course we haven’t had the means or technology to record it for too long.

Either way, it’s a spectacular event:

An even closer shot of the trio:

There are unseen side-effects to the hurricanes blasting through this week. Similar to the strength of vibrations (even if we don’t feel them intensely), different reverberations, pulses and waves come in contact with us daily.

It makes me think of the concept that a butterfly rustling its wings on one side of the planet causes effects faraway. In terms of energy, this is valid and it’s one of the reasons to always send out positivity. It’s a winning strategy, because you sync up with the ‘good’ vibrations in the world (no matter where they are) and they contribute to you experiencing more greatness in unexpected places..!

When extreme weather conditions come about and strange patters occur, they make me wonder. Only 3-5% of the ocean has been explored, so a lot of our planet is still a mystery to us. Hurricanes start way out in the ocean, and can be a result of so many different energy patterns!
One of the reasons this event was so interesting is that in addition to the 3 hurricanes that formed a few days ago, there was already an active one (Erika) hundreds of miles away and another one (Fred) forming thousands of miles away in another direction!

Below is an image of the “Eye” of Ignacio.
(Photo courtesy of AF Reserve Hurricane Hunters.)

Just wanted to explore the parallels of energy and cause you to perhaps pay a little more attention to your surroundings, consciously contributing to the positivity of your day-to-day. The energy that you put out is definitely causing effects… Perhaps you don’t see them right away so it seems far out, but acknowledge that this happens!
Good vibes syncing up are so much stronger than bad ones! The tiny miracles and accidental happy coincidences are our gifts for adhering to this simple idea.

As the weather goes topsy-turvy and then somewhat-neutral once again, I envision health, happiness, abundance, safety, and laughter for all!
May your day-to-day positivity shine as a beacon in your life and in the lives of those around you.
Thanks for reading! And stay safe. 🙂

Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com

This week’s entry is contributed by Reverend Michelle, a talented De-stresser Extraordinaire and gifted healing facilitator! Rev. Michelle is a Life Coach & Wellness Scientist, and has been a Hypnotherapist since 1999.

The effects and ramifications that come along with this type of thing have been around a long time, and even (I would guess) way before Wallace Wattles’ The Science of Getting Rich.
It’s a true pleasure reaching these lovely synchronicities, or whatever you call them in your life – be it divine miracles, happy coincidences, or spontaneously wonderful accidents.

People have different definitions of what this means. To some it’s the divine itself; and to others it’s just the series of ‘unexplainable’ coincidences occurring, or where certain patterns keep repeating…
I’d venture to say you might have first noticed it when you became friendlier with (and more trusting of) your intuition. Contrary to some old notions, both men and women are naturally able to develop it!!!
There’s something about turning one’s choices over to intuition that seems to avail oneself to synchronicity,” says Allan Combs, Ph.D., a psychology professor at the UNC of Asheville & co-author of Synchronicity: Science, Myth and the Trickster. “In practice, that can mean moving from moment to moment when making decisions, even small decisions – especially small decisions! If you expect the unexpected, synchronicity will emerge.”

If you’re open, receptive, and non-judgmental your intuition’s voice will become stronger! Of course, being doubtful and cynical weakens the volume, but it takes practice to decipher and flourish your intuition.

Trusting in this process more and more (with even the most minute of decisions) will cause you to notice more synchronicity as well… but, whether this is due to extra occurrences or just due to you being more observant is left to mystery.
Either way, I’m sure you’ve wondered at one point or another: ‘What does this mean? Surely there is some overarching purpose and reasoning behind these experiences…?’

You’re right!
It means that you are on a great path and that your mission is synced up with the general idea of ‘for the good of all’.

Those are the basic principles of abundance too… To know that you have already attained what you seek (expecting that it is already so, instead of only hoping), and to wish the same greatness and abundance for all. The beauty of it lies in seeing all of this play out by way of tiny miracles!!!! I feel that these miracles are the universe’s way of giving us “good job” stickers.

How much of a boundary is there between your inner and outer environments? All profound change requires looking inward (introspection) and better fusing your different components. Also, hearing echoes (of sorts) in your life – when the same motifs or sequences of words or numbers play out in seemingly unrelated areas – is confirmation that you’re bridging gaps! Synchronicity is the music of our inner and outer worlds harmonizing!

Please feel free to respond directly to me or comment below with your stories of Synchronicity!

Have a wonderful week. 🙂
Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com

This week’s entry is contributed by Reverend Michelle, a talented De-stresser Extraordinaire and gifted healing facilitator. Rev. Michelle is a Life Coach & Wellness Scientist, and has been a Hypnotherapist since 1999!

Noteworthy celestial events that occurred in the past week are a few planets going into retrograde, and a “blue moon” on Friday!

These events are usually more tied together with our own personal battles than we’d like to admit… The reason why they’re so valid is that we were originally stardust! And we’re also ultimately affected by large-scale magnetic and gravitational tugs. Plus, sometimes it’s fun to have a little help when piecing together all of life’s mysteries.

The significance of this past week’s Blue Moon is not its rarity — the term means two full moons happening in the same month, and the next one is in 2018. Its meaning is actually the magical way it helps us keep our feet on the ground and our heads in the clouds at the same time! Maybe its undertones say something different to you… Maybe you’re realizing the culmination of your work or the details to making your life more satisfying.

Venus and Uranus both went into retrograde last week.

But what is retrograde?
When Earth passes by another planet it gives us the illusion that the planet slows down, stops, and then starts moving in reverse. In truth, it only appears as if this happens – planets don’t generally orbit backwards. However, here on Earth it’s the friction (caused by one planet passing another) that we feel the effects of. Sometimes this friction causes abrupt jolts on an energetic level that force us to face the things that require change — even if we aren’t ready to admit change is needed!

You might notice that questions you had from long ago are sorting themselves out and effectively smoothing over areas of your life. Or maybe the mysteries are unraveling more slowly, and you feel a strong urge to solve them once and for all!

In order to have beneficial change, sometimes we need to exit the comfort zone… You may be feeling strange things right now and that’s OK! Occasionally it helps to make decisions that FEEL right to you… instead of decisions that only make sense rationally.
This is a great time to welcome the idea of a huge transformation. Never fear the alternatives! Sometimes life hands us interesting (and seemingly random) opportunities, and often they really are worth considering!

This is also a time of contemplation and reflection in the areas of passion and love. People may be unexpectedly coming into or going out of your life right now. In relationships, try not to be hasty, because sometimes it’s easy to misread signals or gain an unbalanced and distorted perception of a situation.

A time of reflection could also mean coming to terms with things, or even braving the lessons that have revealed themselves.

Forgive, Accept, Let Go, and Love Yourself a bit more, you really do deserve it!!!
It’s only once in a blue moon that you get this rich of an opportunity! 😉

Thank you for reading and I hope you’re having a great week.

Yours in calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com

You create your own reality. Take advantage of your powers!
But… increasing your vibration?? What does that mean?

Maybe you’ve never thought about it before.
The law of attraction says that like attracts like, and this goes so much further than just holding onto a positive attitude!

Similar to radio waves (heard but unseen), your vibrational frequency is composed of your thoughts + emotions + consciousness, and it’s always being broadcasted into the world. This broadcast then attracts similar experiences, people, and opportunities – good or bad. A higher vibration attracts more high-frequency experiences that are spiritually-uplifting or “positive”.
A low vibration attracts the opposite.

It’s been proven that everything works on energy and we’re all made up of atoms that move about at different frequencies… The higher your frequency, the more positive and in-touch you are. You will feel better while staying productive and focused, and you’ll effortlessly find (and maintain) your center.

As the creator of your mood, you have the power to hold onto the feelings that serve you. Utilize any of the following to stay uplifted: laughter, being silly or creative, and finding enjoyment in every (and any) fleeting moment! When you feel an intense rush of happiness or buzz of joy, it’s actually you experiencing your vibration!

Various external stress throughout the day is inevitable, and of course it’s how you deal with these events that matters most. Often we’ll carry around negativity without meaning to, and it collects in different parts of the body.
An added benefit to maintaining (and striving for) a higher vibration, is that aches and pains subside more easily and releasing stress from moment-to-moment becomes effortless!

Some simple ways to help increase your vibration:1. Bathing and Showering.
Something that we do anyway, but pay attention to the water droplets, and allow only positivity to wash over you, releasing any grayness you may have collected…
2. Finding every reason you can to get up and move around!
Ideally it’s in nature, but it still counts if you just make a habit of stretching your legs and moving your body however feels right (yoga, stretches, runs, walks, structured exercise). It’s healthy to break up the sedentary times and teach yourself to keep your back straight!
3. Talk to positive people!
Spend time with those in your life that you know will help keep you smiling. Tell the difference between positive and negative people by how you look and feel when you’re with them. Positive people will help you feel empowered and content.
4. Don’t pay as much attention to the news.
The mainstream media runs on the shock factor, and they enjoy dramatizing negative events. Detoxify yourself as much as possible from these sources, and follow news that contributes to you feeling kinder toward (and safer around) your fellow humans. Another example of like attracting like: if you keep up with uplifting (not frightening) news, then you are more likely to feel love and kindness when you’re around people, hence you’ll bring more positivity and joy to every encounter.

Thank you for joining me today!
Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com