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Seek And You Will Always Find!

On this journey called life, we are constantly searching for things that enrich us. Most of us seek wealth and its accompanying financial security. Some of us seek that special someone to make our lives complete, while many others just want a love and peace that soothes the soul.

During any morning and afternoon rush or at any lunch-spot, have you ever noticed that everyone seems to be searching for something?
Usually they are seeking out directions, the bus, coffee, ways to beat traffic, items to help prepare for the workday, things involved with raising children, maybe even the search for homework (and its answers). Everyone seems to be in a constant rush, while still going nowhere but the same destinations day after day.

Imagine, for just a moment… Instead of only thinking of the routine, or of weekly grocery, cleaning, and other to-do lists, what if we took a running inventory of all that is good and all that is not so good in our lives…?

Let’s give a moment to the things that are so often taken for granted.

First of all, we’re alive, and breathing in the air of existence…
That certainly beats the alternative! If you live, you can give. You can give of yourself, your spirit, your personality, your time. You are you; that alone separates you from the rest of the pack.

Secondly, you have the capacity to love… So, by all means, spread it.
You can start where you are standing – at your current station in life. Pass on feelings of goodwill and love to those who pass through your world. Your positivity encourages them to share goodwill with others. We can make a huge difference, with the smallest efforts! The art of communication is vital in this process, because as social beings we are not an island, and we cannot do it all single-handedly. We need help from those who can help us, and in many instances, it doesn’t take much.

A kind word of encouragement could be someone’s springboard to a great day. If someone tells us that we’re capable of accomplishing X, Y, and Z and we don’t believe it at the time, the thought still stays with us, filing away until we’re ready to set the stage for it to manifest.

The first step to changing life’s circumstances by will, and fashioning into reality what once was just a vision, is acknowledging the fact that you’re already rich.
It may not show up in your wallet just yet, but this voyage in beautiful and bountiful life is proof of your wealth. 🙂

always a way

Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com

Navigating Narrow Streets & Desired Landing-Places

To a non-local, figuring out Istanbul’s public transportation can be a daunting experience. Oftentimes I needed to ask 4 or 5 people before locating someone that spoke enough English to direct me where I wanted to go. The hotel concierge gave me directions to a metro station by saying: ‘turn left and another left and keep on going down ’til you get to the metro’.

The problem was that after I took the two lefts there was no down, and I needed to ask around again to figure out the general direction of the metro station.
One of the people I came across was a young man that told me he’s a student from Serbia, and that he’d be happy to walk me to my destination. After many turns in the narrow streets downtown, I was relieved to discover that we’d finally arrived.
I went down the long escalator and again needed to ask who spoke English, as I didn’t see the name of my desired stop. A young Turkish woman understood where I needed to go and said, to my dismay, that I was in the completely wrong Metro and I needed to go back up to the street, take a bus to the right one, and then continue on to my destination.
As I came up the escalators I thought I’d ask for help once more before exiting the building. I was informed that it truly wasn’t the ideal tram rail, but it could work if I just got on for two stops and then walked for ten minutes. You can imagine the elation I felt discovering such an easy solution!

Lesson:
You need to be clear about where you’re headed.
It’s important to fully communicate the final destination, just as I needed to be clearer with the Serbian student that guided me in the first place!

How do we go about it?
The steps:
*Be crystal clear;
*Find a knowledgeable guide that can help you to the right path;
*Stay the course until your destination.

These steps may seem simple, and maybe you’re already aware of them. Perhaps you’re wondering how important it is to actually follow them.
Well, what if it meant the difference between arriving at your destination, or not…?

Of course, goals take us near and far: to any number of proverbial metros, and many other (perhaps more esoteric) landmarks along the way.

So…. what is Your destination?
And even more importantly: how clear are you (with yourself, first) about where you want to go?

If it’s easier, write some things down really fast.

hill_mind conceive achieve

Some more questions to ponder:
What challenges, if any, remain in your way?
Are there people in your life that misdirect you? …Consciously or subconsciously?
How do you know when to follow their guidance, and when to seek another guide?

Please Share Your Thoughts!
Feel free to either reply to me directly (via email) or write your comments above.
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Thank you so much for joining me on this adventure.
May we all arrive smiling at our desired destinations, and enjoy every step of the journey as well!

Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com

The Persistence and Kindness Connection

These past few weeks in Israel have been full of excitement and life’s circumstances falling into place. I reconnected with a handful of friends from High School. I hadn’t seen them nor spoken to them in thirty years! The friendship and human connection is really something… In many ways we didn’t really feel our three-decades apart and we just picked up where we left off!
I think that when you create meaningful links, they become something special on which time has no bearing.

I also had a strong desire to catch up with someone I hadn’t spoken to in about 5 years and she was initially very hard to reach. I wanted the opportunity to uplift her a bit, and I’d actually been trying since before my trip to touch base but to no avail. Somehow, on my last day in the area, following my intuitions caused us to fortuitously make contact and see each other!

I found myself reflecting on how patience and persistence often go hand in hand.
One must have persistence to achieve some unique and seeming impossibilities, and also the patience to see them through! If one has only persistence and couples it with impatience, then one is prone to feel inadequacy in the huge world. But when one has goodwill, persistence, AND patience… well, the evidence of how huge an impact one has can be dazzling at any given moment!

And I experienced another first that night in Tel Aviv – yoga on a rooftop.
As I basked in the awesomeness of Life, I brimmed with appreciation for Life’s gifting nature, and for how it rewards patience, persistence and (most of all) kindness. Sometimes these rewards are nearly immediate, as in this case… after yoga, the event offered a dip in a hot tub (also on the roof). The instructor informed me that usually there is a line for the Jacuzzi, since there’s a six person capacity. Apparently the weather that night was chillier than usual, as no one remained except the instructor and I! Half a Jacuzzi to myself, a breathtaking view, and wonderfully relaxing conversation to boot!

At other times rewards may take longer to reveal themselves…
Though I have noticed that in the interim, all the miracles I experience daily seem to shine and radiate with an ever more brilliant intensity.

Onward to the Istanbul leg of my adventure… Turkey is a country I haven’t yet visited, and this is bound to be a beautiful continuation of my travels. Goodbye for now Israel, thank you for the great new local connections. I’m looking forward to branching out and working with war veterans to facilitate healing and help them relieve PTSD.

Along the lines of daily miracles, this lovely quadruple rainbow presented itself this morning in the States not too far from home (Long Island)… 100% real photograph, raw & unedited:
Long Island quadRainbow 4.21

Have a wonderful week. 🙂
May you be guided by rainbows, goodwill, patience, and the sweet nectar of your kind persistence all along the way!

Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com