The concept of communication seems like a given, but it appears that nowadays it takes a backseat when it should actually be a main topic. As a skill it’s unrivaled when it comes to its applicability to daily life. We’re constantly communicating with others in various forms and perhaps we take it for granted sometimes…

Instead of just waiting for our turn to speak it’s important to actually listen to others and internalize the information they’re trying to convey. Communication is the crux of all successful relationships, and I feel that sometimes people forget to show they’re truly listening. Putting an effort into having a dialogue with someone, without judgment, can even be the basis for (or continuation of) an unexpected partnership. And, of course, two (or more) heads are much better than one. Effective problem-solving can only occur when people genuinely respect the ideas of others, and communication is the key to any successful collaboration.

If we look back in history, most of the unlikely rising stars we still hear about today had the communication skill down. They used effective speaking to convey their ideas, and they simplified their big ideas into smaller actionable ones so that others could carry on their legacies. To carry on their example, it’s important to recognize that not everyone is as talented or as smart as you are…. often people require you to extrapolate on your ideas before they can internalize and run with them as intended. I don’t mean that as a jab at the average individual, I just feel it’s important to know you’re unique (as are your thoughts) and respecting others at their level is just another aspect of effective communicating. You don’t need to talk down to them, necessarily, it’s just helpful to be your own mediator between thoughts and expected results.

Arthur Schopenhauer (a German philosopher from the early 1800s) stated that, “talent hits a target no one else can hit; Genius hits a target no one else can see.” When we combine talent, genius, and communication skills we become a truly unstoppable force! When it comes down to it, the ability to communicate advanced topics to others is what determines how much these topics are truly grasped. What I mean is, effective communication is essential to developing and pursuing genius.

Effective leadership requires communication, but so does any relationship!
A romantic (or even familial) relationship also flourishes when communication is present, and when mutual respect is in place to help both partners feel their statements and feelings matter.

So, in your own life, consider putting down your electronic devices for a bit and actually engaging your world. Show your respect for those that matter and make eye contact when they’re talking to you. Express your understanding and appreciation for what they say by responding in a timely manner without tuning them out. Ram Dass says “wherever you are, be all there,” and I think that’s a perfect summary for getting better with your communication skills. Of course, everything requires practice and communicating is no exception – the only way to improve is to use it as often as possible in varying degrees.

It’s easy to get immersed in chores, and projects, and even in our own thoughts. But when we extrapolate advanced concepts and engage our surrounding world at the same time, we can truly experience the beauty that is.

Thanks for reading!!!

Yours in Calmness,
Reverend Michelle

Reverend Michelle is a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience. Her unique healing solutions blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence.
This is cutting edge, because for over 6 years Rev. Michelle has literally been fusing science with metaphysics!
Stay In Touch via FB for special deals, AND doses of inspirational positivity ~ Facebook.com/coastallilacs.

Relationships sometimes are “acute stressors…[or] chronic stressors,” and this type of stress causes “changes in endocrine functioning” which can affect immune system function, and (ultimately) overall health. While it’s a study of marriage in particular, it shows that differences in how men and women react to aggression effect immune function and health/quality of life way down the road.
[Above paragraph paraphrased from This Study .]

Don’t allow yourself to get caught in a jar so to speak; your surroundings everyday determine your overall enjoyment of life. So are you happy and fulfilled…? Do you smile upon awakening for a brand new day?

Or are you sullen, depressed, sometimes reaching for a momentary escape from your daily circumstances???

Now, sometimes that’s the way you’re telling yourself that something should be changed…. and it’s definitely worth considering if you feel down often and fantasize about remedying things.
But, the flip-side is that it’s also possible your overall engaging of your life’s moments is what’s determining how situations turn out.

What are some ways to feel more fulfilled, even without leaving a job or a spouse?

The short answer is to work more on yourself, and tend to your innermost needs. Often other people (or circumstances or inebriants) aren’t the answer to what you seek to feel….
In my experience the most effective and swift method to feeling uplifted is to change the individual’s perception of the outside world.
So, for a little bit, or as a last-ditch effort, or even just for the sake of experimentation:
Perform the same daily functions for a while but with renewed vision. Use every opportunity to grow as a person and as a mature member of the worldwide social interaction network. And I don’t mean the internet – I mean the social interactions you have every single day with other people face-to-face, or with the various elements of life going on around you.
The more involved answer is: Drink in life, enjoy the tiny fleeting moments, find the utmost pleasure in little happiness-es. Shed any negative baggage you’ve held onto for no one’s benefit. Allow any negativities you encounter daily to just wash away and dissipate from your being, leaving you always feeling simple contentment at your core.

Yours in Calmness,
Reverend Michelle
Calmness.com

Reverend Michelle is a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience. Her unique healing solutions blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence.
This is cutting edge, because for over 6 years Rev. Michelle has literally been fusing science with metaphysics!
Stay In Touch via FB for special deals, AND doses of inspirational positivity ~ Facebook.com/coastallilacs.

Happy Groundhog Day!

Some people brush off the concept of consideration, thinking it has little bearing on daily life. The truth of the matter is that being considerate (aka thoughtful, kind, caring, and respectful) of others is one of the most wonderful and rewarding things you can do. The rewards are endless, because not only does a considerate attitude warm others to you, but it generally also improves your own quality of life from moment-to-moment.
Consideration is more than just getting along with others, attempting to jive with them, or just being nice. It’s niceness, but expanded further to think outside the box and at times foresee the needs of others.

So what makes considerate people stand out?

Of course, thoughtful and nice people are often working on their empathy and always expanding their worldview. They are compassionate for the world and people around them, and it shows in small actions. A strongly considerate person might perceive the opposite of this behavior to be selfishness, simply because of someone’s lack of empathy and compassion.

Kind and considerate people are thoughtful of others’ needs and desires. They have developed an intuitive understanding and often find themselves anticipating people’s requests or wants, before they are asked. The reason for this is that they’re in-tune with the world around them and also are always putting themselves in others’ shoes, so the little things are just a matter of logic. Considerate people have very strong extrapolation skills, as they are constantly using them to be nicer to those around.

Courteous people are often smiling, because they know positivity’s power! They smile at themselves in the mirror at various points in the day, but they are also always grinning at people just to brighten others’ day. They realize that something as simple as a smile (even when given to a stranger) is one of the strongest and easiest ways to improve multiple people’s day. This is one of the most basic principles of the consideration concept.

Thoughtful and respectful people utilize their manners and attempt to handle every situation with class. They are polite, which means NOT just listening to speak. They DO actually make eye contact when others are talking and truly pay attention to communications and the speakers’ underlying message. They also find themselves living by the ‘golden rule’ pretty much always, since the way they’d like to be treated is the perfect gauge for a polite way to treat others.

Just by being considerate, a person inherently practices selflessness. This means putting others first, but not always, because balance is the ultimate way to live life to the fullest. You can’t be treating others like gold and yourself like bronze! You must remain positive and continuously appreciate your own moment-to-moment in order to practice meaningful kindnesses.

The powers of being kind and considerate are many, as the energy you put out into the world always finds its way back to you.

The only additional advice I have as you pursue the expansion of your version of Consideration, is this: Always maintain your self-respect. It’s important to be considerate of/to yourself, and this means never becoming a doormat. Just as with anything, moderation is key because not everyone deserves to be treated like diamonds and everything nice! Sometimes people are too far-gone into negativity, but that’s their battle. Even with them, just keep on smiling! Positivity is proven to be infectious. 🙂

Reverend Michelle is a Wellness Scientist and healer with over 15 years’ experience. Her unique healing solutions blend proven techniques with a strong scientific influence.
This is cutting edge, because for over 6 years Rev. Michelle has literally been fusing science with metaphysics!
Stay In Touch via FB for special deals, AND doses of inspirational positivity ~ Facebook.com/coastallilacs.

Yours in Calmness,
Reverend Michelle
Calmness.com