At times, have you noticed yourself using the following Self-Defeating Phrases (SDP)?
7. I can do it later/tomorrow/next time.
8. I don’t feel like it (OR) One time isn’t a big deal.
9. I’m tired (OR) I deserve a break/reward.
10. It would be so great to just stop or quit…
11. The end-goal of (this) isn’t that important anyway…
12. I’m afraid of… (any part of the situation or potential for failure).

It’s OK to admit it; we all use these phrases now and then.
There’s nothing wrong with giving-in sometimes. The trouble is when that giving-in becomes the habit, and progress is halted indefinitely. Habits can only be changed if you stay focused and determined. You can rise above every excuse with a concrete decision to be strong-willed and straight-forward!!!!

With the right approach and some planning ahead, any obstacle you come across can be overcome. Every wrench in the plan can be easily re-purposed and used for good towards the final goal. Continue to recognize the areas where you need growth, and keep congratulating yourself as you move along (or at least acknowledge your progress)!
Don’t wait for this encouragement from the outside… You’re on an introspective journey and only you know the daily triumphs!

Here is how to overcome any of the SDP mentioned above:
7. Begin to incorporate a touch-it-once approach where you can. Perhaps create to-do lists where the Important and the Urgent are on different columns so you can better plan your productivity.
8. You’re right… one time (if it really is just once) is fine. The truth is, it rarely is just once. Push through wherever possible! By pushing through, you expand your comfort zones often and gain countless health benefits!
9. You can easily and quickly grow accustomed to [a new positive life change] and Enjoy your day-to-day even more! A proven approach is coupling your new habit (e.g. going to the gym) with a reward (e.g. reading a few more chapters in your book).
10. If you’re shining a light around and making waves in your world, it’s possible that you might encounter an opposite reaction. This is more proof that you’re on the right path… Don’t quit now! You already know Light is exponentially stronger.
11. The end-goal IS IMPORTANT. It’s the only intensely important thing there is. This is the sneakiest trick the mind plays, but it’s a weak maneuver. Hold fast to your resolve.
12. Base fear can be very similar to the effect of an adrenaline rush… its presence also means a threshold is about to be crossed, and all that’s left is the Courage to forge ahead. Face your fear now! It’s always milder than our over-active brain envisions! 🙂

So what’s next?
Begin anticipating these SDP (as they occur for you) and prepare your answer for each one.
If the situation calls for giving in, then do it with purpose and pay attention to the results!
Are you happier? Is your life better? Was it worth it?
Be honest with yourself.
If the answer to any of those questions was “No”, then remember that.

In this way, you will continue to Progress while Enjoying Life.
PLUS you get to reap the benefits of a mind that works FOR you (instead of against you)!

Keep encouraging yourself, and admiring the awesome qualities you’ve been displaying! You’ve got this.

Feel free to re-visit this entry or Part One anytime, for help responding to any self-defeating phrases that may arise!

Have an amazing day. 🙂

Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com