Sometimes, even with your best efforts and the utilization of all kinds of techniques (better daily habits, thinking more positively, etc), you still find yourself lacking something… a missing piece, some extra snippet of insight…
What could it possibly be?
Your confusion might develop something like this:
“I am positive, I am abundant, I am thankful and kind, and use Love in every interaction I can. But I still experience negativity, often a few times a day! And it only seems to worsen…”
It’s likely due to the quality of your social interactions.
Perhaps your social life and your everyday interactions with others are off-kilter? Or maybe they bring about extra negativity that you’re not getting rid of?
We’re inherently social. We need others. We need family and loved ones.
The people we interact with SHAPE us. We are emotionally-vested in these relationships and their patterns… The effects of every interaction show up in psychological and physiological ways.
The levels of hostility and aggression in any relationship can have an effect on the immune system – by way of the reactions the body has to external negativity. Pay attention to the way you react to the people and situations in your life! Reacting with hostility is more hurtful to you than to the receiver.
Nowadays we’re more distanced from each-other via electronics….
Many will find this image powerful, as it shows the growing tech phenomenon and its impact on family life:
It’s helpful to loosen that e-leash!!!!
Revel in the moment! Enjoy the nuances of your surroundings!
Allow yourself to relax wherever it is that you are, with no distractions — except maybe from your mind as you clear it with breaths of relaxation.
It’s impossible to appreciate THE MOMENT when you’re constantly multi-tasking! Believe it or not, in many situations this behavior doesn’t even prove to be productive! You listen less, you talk less, and you engage not at all.
Plus, when you do engage others it’s more likely to be on the aggressive side of the spectrum, because things were misconstrued or misunderstood. Maybe you repeated it too many times, or they thought you were arguing when in fact the opposite was true. It means a world of difference to take those few extra seconds and truly grasp what a person is saying.
So, just a few simple solutions to incorporate to help you Overcome these Hidden Stresses:
1) If breaking with technology daily for a few hours seems tough, start small with a daily ‘unplugged’ hour, unplugged after work for an increasing number of hours, and eventually to one tech-free day per week! It might take a while, but every loosening of the technology-leash is progress!!
2) Work on your responses and reactions being less aggressive, and More Understanding – inside and out.
3) Practice listening to listen, instead of listening just to respond.
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An added benefit is that when you have more to value in life (and higher quality values) you can reflect on these at ANY time and it’s been scientifically proven to lower stress levels and help with positive response.
As you improve your relationships to improve your calmness, your improved relationships lead to more calmness — even with things that are unrelated!
Have a wonderful day!
Yours in Calmness,
Dr. Inessa
Calmness.com