Some people are taught the consideration concept – raised from an early age to foresee what they can do to make people’s lives easier. Some people, on the other hand, are not taught this skill. There’s also a third group of people – the inherently caregiving people that have a similar talent, that of interpreting events and determining ways of quickly diffusing situations to where everyone is as happy as possible. When people of the first and third group (we’ll refer to them as The Considerates) come in contact with people of the second group (the ones that haven’t learned or incorporated this skill), sometimes there is frustration. The considerate people do certain things to help the not-so-considerate, and often the favor is not returned. The considerate and caregiver ones may feel that it’s unfair and maybe even rude, but the irony of the situation is that the not-so-considerate people haven’t even given it a second thought. Maybe they’ve grown accustomed to the consideration, or maybe they are clueless altogether.

So, what to do about this deeply-rooted difference of ideals?

First of all, if you are one of The Considerates, don’t get discouraged if people don’t acknowledge your consideration. This is definitely not a fault of your own, because you are going above and beyond in terms of being nice. It’s actually a lack of this characteristic in the other people. Give yourself the credit, if it’s not given by others. This talent that you have is incredibly valuable and don’t let others’ action (or inaction) sour your desire to flourish.

Second, if someone finds themselves in the position of being one of the not-so-considerate, perhaps it’s time to pay more attention to the nuances around. There are certain things that people do that aren’t really necessary; they’re extra favors that are gifted due to their anticipation that it would be helpful. Consideration is a skill that can definitely be learned, no matter how old someone is, nor the grade of previous life experiences. Sometimes nice people get not-so-nice treatment, but that doesn’t mean the niceness needs to be let go. On the contrary, sometimes the unpleasant situations in life and how one reacts to them are what shape a person’s character.

Third, no matter which group you fall under and regardless of why, the consideration skill is best developed by practicing on yourself. You will always be thankful for the nice and thoughtful favors you do for yourself, so why not ramp it up even more? It’s not selfishness, because it will help you open your eyes further to the sorts of things that make life easier for others. And if you’ve felt the gift of consideration then you’re more likely to give it to others with no expectations. I’ve found that the most fulfilling consideration is the one that’s given in and of itself, with no built-in desire to get something back.

Fourth, if you find yourself often thanklessly considerate, perhaps tone it down just a little bit. Sometimes people need to do things for themselves before they realize how amazing it was for you to do them. Another point is that maybe people are already doing certain things, but in their own way. Allow others to accomplish certain tasks in the manner they see fit, because often there isn’t just one way to do them.

I think we can all agree that the world and its interactions would be a much better place if more people were considerate. So keep it up! Be thankful often, and please continue being the wonderful person that you are. The positive energy that you generate with your great intentions will find its way back to you for sure, one way or another. You’ll know when it happens.

Thank you for reading. 🙂

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